Redefining Anger
Emotion 3 - Anger
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”
- Mark Twain
Anger is a gripping and powerful emotion. It is rather "flashy"; energetically shifting your entire state of being. Once it is aroused, it is difficult to shake off. It is important to begin to become aware of this emotion, what it signals and why it is expressed, in order to build the discipline needed to overcome this energy.
In general, the root of ALL anger lies in fear. It is triggered by a real or perceived threat to oneself, or by the belief that something and someone you love is at risk. When one thinks of anger, energetically it is expressed in a rather forceful manner. Anger is the sure sign of conflict, either within you or outside you. It is projected everywhere, manifesting like an uncontrollable fire into reality.
In this metaphor, one can grasp the nature of anger. Yes, it burns.
In that, it also creates.
In fear, one shuts down energetically. All stalls.
Anger, while chaotic, at least get YOU moving.
I don’t mean to talk about anger as an emotion that should be celebrated. It is rather an immature and weak emotion. In that, if you live in fear. Let out some anger, within reason. It is good to let this emotion out, rather than let it sit within.
If it sits within, and is not expressed, a bomb is waiting to explode. This is the danger of anger, and why I URGE one to use it with caution. Do NOT identify with, nor repress anger. Any discipline that lacks this warning will be your own to clean up.
Be responsible. Take care of your anger.
If it needs to be expressed, hit the gym or release it in any unique style you can create.
And don't forget, integrate what that anger is indicating or else it will continue to want to express itself. You can take it one step further by developing enough awareness and focus in the moment to work through the emotion, while gathering the important information within its energetic expression.
The Formula
Defining Anger
Triggering and Expressing Anger
Responding, Not Reacting, to Anger
Making Anger Work For YOU
Redefining Anger
Defining Anger
Definitions
(Merriam-Webster): “A strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism.”
(Dictionary.com): “A strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong; wrath; ire.”
(Cambridge Dictionary): “A strong feeling that makes you want to hurt someone or be unpleasant because of something unfair or unkind that has happened.”
(Wikipedia): “Anger, also known as wrath or rage, is an intense emotional state involving a strong uncomfortable and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation, hurt or threat.”
(Oxford Dictionary): “A strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.”
EMOTIONS are ENERGY. This is one major theme of this serious. Again, we outline a “personality trait” to an inner reaction. While fear stuns energy, and love arouses is, ANGER takes us back towards the unpleasant side of energy. In this, displeasure (a word noticed through most definitions), anger steps above then emotion of fear. Anger, in is uncomforting feeling, makes us move. Whether this is in a positive or negative direction will be up to your EGO reaction, but we will pause on this for now.
In this blended definition, you may also notice another major connection. That is the arousal of the emotion of anger. It is triggered by a real or perceived wrong, as well as a threat against YOU. In addition, there is a key word to focus on in with anger, and that is its NON-COOPERATIVE energetic response. It is combative, and should be aimed away another energy that may react. There are healthy ways to redirect this energy, without repressing or hiding from it.
Anger is triggering, and rather expressive.
Let’s explore..
Triggering and Expressing Anger
Triggering Anger
Anger is triggering. There are two ways anger is expressed. The first is from an initial state of anger. While the anger is being expressed, instead of repressed, it is a bit trigger happy and immature. The second is triggered by a repressed anger that has built enough energy to break through consciousness. In an Instagram reel, this emotional triggering was in full display (see emotions and the unconscious reel). I let a warm fire (can be seen as anger) getting tapped under a pan (the pan on the front is the surface EGO persona disassociated with this emotion). As an external stimuli triggered this emotion (cold water) it had enough energy to release a huge puff of steam. If the heat was not trapped or strong enough, there would not be such a reaction.
Anger is triggered by thoughts that are rooted in conflict. It is expressed in defiance. It in not an energy that is willing to lose. It is a protect I at all costs type of feeling. When one feels at threat, anger arises. It wants to protect, which is why DEEP within anger one begins to notice its lack of Self-confidence. If one was confident in Self, they would have nothing to defend. Anger is protective. Why do bullies bully? They are angry. They find someone to take it out on. Usually, within that anger is a inner conflict. A broken soul.
Energetic Anger
In the introduction, we noticed the interesting aspect of anger. While it is a “negative” energy, it does offer a silver lining. It moves YOU. Without movement, not much on the physical plane can occur. Movement is important. Energetic movement can be tricky. Anger is chaotic.
Think about love. It is expressed with such connection and balance. Then enters anger. It is out of balance and control. Aimless and baseless. While they can teach, their true value is in this expression. If you have lives in FEAR, and now begin to build some ANGER, you have made progress energetically.
The next step is crucial. Anger is quick burning, and also distractive. That is its negative side. It is also combative, another dangerous aspect. BUT, we can begin take there facts and build awareness to shift this energy towards more control. We can begin to aim it, while naturally allowing it to be expressed. While fear is more instructive (hence its ability to teach us inner truths and its low energetic expression), anger is more destructive. It consumes in wrath and rage.
Responding, Not Reacting, to Anger
Reacting
Anger is expressed with a clear defensive stance. It is protecting something, usually ones subjective EGO. It is a PROJECTOR. This means when one is angered, whether at one’s Self or in defense of EGO, they find something or someone to “attack”. This is not just physically, but also mentally. In anger, one can say the most disgusting words. While they feel good when letting the emotion out, they can be traumatic to another, especially a child. This is why taking ones anger out, with oneself in a safe way, is CRUTIAL for yourself and others around you.
Instead of immaturely becoming possessed by rage or wrath, we may begin to respond in a responsible manner.
Responding
Responding requires a certain amount of self-reflection and awareness. There is no way around it. Anger is a flame that sparks quick and burns out almost just as quickly. Anger is possessive and can be difficult to reflect on in the moment. While one can build the awareness to begin to notice anger before it arises, it takes a certain amount of energy awareness to begin this feat.
You MUST remember that anger is searching for conflict. In this, it is rather rare, if not impossible, to approach another in anger without them responding back with the same energy. Like energy attracts. So, it is a dead, distracting, sometimes disastrously trap to project anger on another. Instead, begin to think about taking responsibility so you do not set up the ripe conditions for yet another blow-up.
Take a breathe. Bring it up when you need some energy to exercise or finish up busy work. You got this.
Making Anger Work For YOU
Control
Controlling emotions are not the ability to decide what emotions you want to feel. Rather, letting them run their course as you detach and evaluate them. Anger is Love without eyes. Anger is powerful like love, yet blind. It cannot see itself. That is why it is in conflict. It is disconnected and protective.
To control anger, one must focus on the mind and body. If one is physically or psychologically stressed, controlling anger will be an endless surface level game of whack a mole. To get to the roots, we must break free from the subjective. We must focus on the objective.
What can you begin to add to your life to start to heal or maintain balance in both mind and body. One key word to defend the defensive emotion of anger is stillness. If one begins to cultivate stillness in mind and body, whether that be in thoughts or movement, you will notice your ability to be less reactive. Although something may upset you, the emotional reaction does not hold its possessive traits. In all, it is all about discipline in mind and body, less about the specifics (while valuable, fear is a better teacher).
Intelligence
Anger is such an interesting emotion. It actually provides interesting psychological and physiological responses. It MOVES and it FOCUSES. You need to think about this. If I told you, what is an emotion that will make you more FOCUSED and increase your ENERGY, would you ever think anger? This is key to becoming intelligent about anger. It is a HUGE step above fear. You must think about this powerful, yet chaotic energy that needs someone to order it.
You must realize in anger,
1) Never repress it for too long. If in the moment you need to keep it in, make sure to get it out so it does not STICK to you.
2) Anger is less reactive when your initial conditions are right. If you are not defending Self, and your mind and body are within a sense of balance, anger is difficult to arouse.
3) I am holding off any examples on what to do with your anger. This is your experience to create ways to express anger in a healthy manner. Some do it at the gym. Some meditate on the angry moment. Others scream in a pillow or take it out on a boxing bag. It is yours to be responsible for. Just make sure you know the nature of anger, and if it is expressed at another energy that is reactive, you both may catch fire.
Ultimately, you want to get to a place where you understand your anger is a lack of faith in Self. If you have built a persona that you are defending, it is time to take your anger out on that. If you have no persona and have just given up on life, get angry that you are blaming away the miracle of life you were gifted. Suffer through your anger and save the world from your misery. In the process, you can begin to heal out of this energetic state. You can begin to be.
Redefining Anger
Anger is when we have had enough. Anger is when we are defensive of our subjective EGO judgments. Anger is when our heart is not open, yet wants to be expressed. Anger is possessive and explosive. Anger is rooted within fear.
My favorite way to view anger is that anger is a fear that has become sick of fearing. In that misery, it lights itself up.
The antidote to fear is confidence in Self. Through Self conscious and awareness, in its truest nature, one will notice angers begin to fade. The chaos clears, as this energy can begin to see. Through this process, peace begins to cultivate.
Next, Emotion 4 - PEACE
